Mind your Belief System

Tonight Jordy, Izzy and I (I feel like my name should end in a y too) went over to Jordy's friend's (well okay I guess they're mine too, well 50% because when you're married that's what you get from your partner) house to visit and reintroduce them to Isabel because they are lovely enough to babysit this saturday when no one else is available. The last time Isabel saw them was when she was 3 months old and she'll be 9 months tomorrow. So that's a long time. Anyway, we're all chatting and stuff and the conversation leads this way and that way and I'm discovering that something has changed here. Right here in this room at this very moment. Hmm, what is it? I can't put my finger on it, then it hits me. What these friends are saying is offending me, well maybe not offending, that's too strong of a word. They're finding something funny about children that I see no humour in what-so-ever. And my response is indicative to that. Huh. What happened? I'm a pretty intuitive person and my gut is telling me that I'm sounding like "those people", you know, the ones who have children and turn into assholes who no longer have friends who are childless. But I can't help it. It's a gut reaction. They think having your child fetch you beer is funny and actually know people who do this with their children and do not see the harm to the child in this situation. What has changed here? Is it because I have a child? Would I have found this funny a year ago or even two years ago? Is it because I'm a CYC worker and have seen the end result to these so called humourous parenting styles? Have they just become stupid in the past 6 months? WHAT?! WHAT?! I became very mindful in that moment of how my beliefs and theirs ended up on the opposite sides of the room. I hope that this isn't a trend.